Nov 10, 2011





Below is an article written by Sean McDowell regarding the costs of porn.  It's a "Hard hat & safety glasses required" article.



Pornography is tearing apart the fabric of our society. You may think this is an overstatement. After reading, “The Social Costs of Pornography” by the Witherspoon Institute, I think it may be anunderstatement.

In 2008, the Witherspoon Institute sponsored the first multidisciplinary exploration of the social costs of pornography. Scholars from various fields including philosophy, psychology, and medicine were included in the forum. Every major shade of religious belief was represented, including Christianity, Judaism, Islam, agnosticism, and atheism. And both the left and right in American politics were present. They all agreed that there is a substantial multidimensional, empirical record of the harms pornography brings to society. Obviously, such agreement is rare.

Today’s pornography is different from any in the past in three ways.

1. Accessibility.


The Internet has made porn ubiquitous.


2. Quality.


Today’s porn is much more hardcore.


3. Consumption.


Porn consumption has increased radically with the advent of the Internet. Sixty-nine percent of men and 10% of women report viewing pornography more than once a month. Eighty-seven percent of men admit using it in the past year. The researchers conclude, “In sum, there is evidence that more people—children, adolescents, and adults—are consuming pornography—sporadically, inadvertently, or chronically—than every before.”

How does pornography actually harm people? The researchers list a plethora of ways. Each of these points is supported with empirical evidence in the report. Keep in mind that these areobjective facts about pornographic consumption, not my subjective opinions.

  • Those who view pornography overestimate how frequently certain sexual acts are actually practiced, which increases one’s willingness to do unconscionable things.
  • Porn viewers physically map their brains based on the images they see. Pornographic consumption remaps the physical structure of the brain.
  • Many men who view porn lose the ability to relate to or be close to women.
  • Porn viewers become desensitized to the barrage of imagery, and as a result, child pornography and violent pornographic images often lose their ability to shock and disgust.
  • Women often report distress and harm when discovering that their husbands view porn. They typically feel betrayal, loss, mistrust, devastation, and anger as a result of their partner’s behavior.
  • Porn users have an increased likelihood of divorce and family break-up.
  • Those who had an extramarital affair were three times more likely to have used Internet pornography than those who had not.
  • Porn leads men to place less value on marital fidelity and more value on casual sex.
  • Therapists report seeing fourteen- and fifteen-year-old boys addicted to porn.
  • An Italian study reported that boys who view porn were more likely to report having sexually harassed a peer or having forced someone to have sex.
  • Adolescent girls who report using pornography are more likely to report being victims of passive violence such as sexual harassment and rape.
  • Today’s consumption of pornography encourages sexual exploitation such as trafficking.
  • Adolescents who view pornography are more likely to view women as sexual objects.
  • Porn consumption raises the risk of sexually risky behavior.
  • Men who use pornography are less attractive to potential female partners.
  • Exposure to pornography decreases sexual satisfaction with one’s partner for both men and women.
  • Chronic pornography use is associated with depression and unhappiness.
  • Users often report disgust and shame at finding themselves stimulated by images that would have once repulsed.

What do we do? For starters, can you help spread the word about the dangers of pornography? Please consider getting a copy of the report, “The Social Costs of Pornography,” and study it. Talk to your friends about it. Share it with your family and church. Blog about it. Or forward this blog to as many people as you can. There needs to be a renewed conversation about how pornography is damaging this generation. We can no longer ignore the most dangerous health hazard to this generation. Our kids deserve better.

peace


b

Nov 9, 2011

How HE Loves Us...



Do yourself a favor...take a few minutes to:

1 - Consider the lyrics of this song
2 - Consider them for your life alone
3 - Give some energy to really thanking God for loving you like He does
4 - Learn to accept His love more & more into your life
5 - Stop arguing with Him & telling Him all the reasons He shouldn't love you
6 - Sing it LOUD

peace

b



Nov 7, 2011

I'm a People Person...Sort of.



My personality is all about people.

I like being around people...Well, I'm learning, that's not entirely true.  I am realizing more & more, that for me, there are certain people types I like being around & there are certain people types that I don't like being around at all.

For instance...

I like being around confident people, but I don't like being around arrogant people.

I like being around people that find their value in themselves, I don't like being around people who think the things they own makes them more valuable than they really are, or who think it makes them more valuable than someone who doesn't have what they have.

I like being around real people, I don't like being around fake people.

I like being around people with depth, I don't like being around superficial people.

I like being around people that can handle honest conversations, I don't like being around people that can't.

I like being around people that are trying their best, I don't like being around people that go half___ on anything.

I like being around people that have a story (past) & are ok with it, I don't like being around people who judge people that have a story.

I like being around people that offer grace, I don't like being around people who forgot they need it.

I like being around sinners forgiven by grace better than I like being around "holier than thou & never messed up" people.

I'd rather be around someone that fell & knows how to get back up than be around someone that never fell & has some judgment about those that have.

I'd rather hang out with people that recognize we are all messed up in some way, than hang out with people who think they have it all together.

I struggle with people that are consistently sad or down in the dumps or just seem to always be negative. Yet, I also struggle with people that are consistently faking happiness.  Life happens - I like people that face it as it is & move on.  If it's good - enjoy it...if it's not - then admit it, deal with it & then move on.

I really struggle with people who major in the minors...those that point out "things" in others - as if they can't believe that about them...or can't believe they'd do that...or or or...All the time, they forget the judgment they are passing, IMO is worse than the gnat they are choking over.

I'd rather have someone tell me off, than fake like they like me.  I can't stand that obligatory mess...especially among the Followers of Christ.

I like being around tough people better than being around sissies.

I like being around people who live...who overcome...who strive...I don't like being around people give up or who allow themselves to not try because...

I like being around people who go after it...who do their best...I don't like being around people who under achieve & allow the fact that they are better than others to be the reason for not really going after it...

I like being around people who find the limits & go beyond them...I don't like being around people who tell you all the reasons it can't be done.

I like being around people who know what it's really all about...I don't like being around people who should have figured it out by now.

I like being around people who like people...I don't like being around people who don't.

I like being around people who are on a spiritual journey with Christ, I don't like being around people who hide behind their religion.

I like being around people who can have real discussions about God... Jesus...faith...etc.  I don't like being around people who can't.  One seems much more real than the other.

I like being around people who can separate the sin from the sinner...I don't like being around people who can't.

I like being around people who take you for who you are, not for what you've done.  I don't like being around people who can't separate the two.

I could go on - but that's pretty much what had me up early this morning...

I'm a people person...well, sort of.

peace

b

Nov 6, 2011

Random Stuff...



Some things drifting around in my head about "church"...

1st - Outside the "obvious things" - what makes church - church?  What I mean is, what are the real values of being in a church?

Like today for instance, we ate breakfast together, not in a sanctuary, but rather a school cafeteria... We had a time of worship - that was really good... a message... IE The typical pieces of a church service & some very non typical pieces.  But it was great...it was worth being there today.  What makes that happen?

I would think that on the front end of this - it would be easy to discount this as not being a "real church service".  Yet, it was a great day.

2nd - If you had never been to a church service, what would you be looking for?

If you felt that you needed to "go to church", what would be your hope when you went?  What would you hope you took away?  This questions is one I'm wrestling with a lot lately.

3rd - As you become part of a church - or I like the term "group of Christ followers", what would be the long term impact on your life?   Why commit to a given place...why show up at a given church for a long time?  Why not just drift around - as long as you go somewhere...?

4th - I wrestle with the whole purpose of "organized religion".  Not in some anti Biblical way...rather in a "we have really Americanized it" kind of way.  Like so many other things, I wonder how far off we've gotten from what Church should be & do on any given Sunday...What are the coree values we can't afford to lose & what are the variables we can tinker with?

5th - I loved today.  What it did...said... How it felt.  The buzz that was in the air.  The excitement of the people.  How real worship was.

IMO - You couldn't leave there & not feel like something real had taken place.  But, what was it?

6th - In trying to figure out what Genesis is being called to be & do - it's these things (all the above) that are part of the wrestling.  What keeps the non-negotiables in tact...How can we adhere to the Biblical pieces & yet expound on them in ways that are not always within the box.  How can we be a place where we are allowing God to do incredible things in & through us & yes do it in greater ways than typically thought of?

Anyway...

just some things that are causing me to lose sleep lately...thought I'd share 'em.

peace

b

Nov 3, 2011

I Mean REALLY...



So, a few thoughts...questions...ponderings..etc.

1st - Can, Will & Does God REALLY forgive anything? (Other than blaspheming the Holy Spirit.  Which, when I read the passage on it, means ascribing the works of God's Spirit as being of the Devil.  Unless I misunderstand that passage...there are denominations that do this all the time...?  But that's not the point of this blog).  Outside of blaspheming, Can Will & Does God forgive any & all sins?

We all have an answer to that question already.  If our answer is yes - it has to be yes every time, all the time.  For every person that repents & asks God for forgiveness - the answer has to be the same every time.  YES.

If our answer is NO, then how do we decide on which "sins" or "people" get the forgiveness?  What's our deciding factors?  Who gets it & who doesn't?  It seems so subjective, when we start deciding ourselves - huh?

I think the Bible is clear - He CAN WILL & DOES...but, we are the ones that "grade" or "scale" sins, making some worse than others spiritually.  Therefore, we struggle with this area.

2nd - Can a person REALLY change?  I mean really change.  Again, we have an answer to this question already.  Our answer, determines how we respond to everyone in our life...the good...bad & yes - even the ugly - spiritually speaking of course.

It's a powerful question to consider.  If we aren't careful, we will pull in the secular mentality on this whenever deemed appropriate for any given person or sin.  What I mean is, the world says that: some people can't change...can't quit...can't recover...etc.  The Bible says we can.  So, which do we say?  It's another area that we can be very subjective in.  We can pick certain sins, or sayings from the world's side & apply them over what the Bible says.

Are we really "in recovery" forever or are we truly set free?  Is it true that "once a cheater/addict/liar/____...always a cheater/addict/liar/____" or is the old really gone?  It is true that "they (whoever they are in our life) will never change" or can they walk in the spirit & not fulfill the desires of their flesh?  See what I mean?  The world says one thing, the Word another.  IMO, You can't have both.

We have to be careful how we answer this.  Because, the answer we have for one person - should be good for another as well...actually, not only good for another - good for everyone.

But, my experience is, that we pick & choose the people that "are serious"..."are sincere"...are "something".  And, that something, we use as being the YES or NO for them.

3rd - Am I REALLY psychic?  Easy answer, NO.

And guess what - I don't think you are either.  I don't believe in psychics.

So, why do we think we can read each others minds?  Why do we think we "know what they are really thinking"?  Why do we think we can "tell" something about a person & be able to share that with others...all because of our "psychic ability"?  Of course, if we really need to, we can make it spiritual & then call it "discernment".  That places a whole 'nother spin on it then.  It's like we put "God said" on it - and then for whatever reason, it goes unchallenged...as if it's out of bounds now.  IMO - often, we do that just for that reason...to go unchallenged in our opinion(s) of someone or something.

My Point???

If we aren't careful - the 3 questions listed can all be answered all subjectively & all wrong.  This will only lead us to be highly selective in our view of others sins & their ability to change.  We can put our own idea of what they are really up to, or that they aren't REALLY "_____", & end up with quite a mess of how we do & don't view or accept people in our life &/or church.

We either REALLY believe God CAN WILL & DOES forgive or we REALLY don't.  We either believe people REALLY can change or we REALLY don't.  We either believe we REALLY can read others minds or we REALLY don't.

Which is it?

We can't have it both ways!  REALLY!

So

Choose which side you are on regarding: your opinion of God's forgiveness...People's ability to change & your psychic ability.  AND, REALLY stay there, 100% of the time...every day...every person...every story.  BUT - Don't live on both sides as it fits your comfort zones...it really gets messy.

peace...

b

Nov 1, 2011

Doing What Ya Can...Doing What Ya Can't...



So...

One day you decide to go to the gym...or somewhere in life - you decide to do something for some given reason in order to obtain some goal.

Using the gym as an example, do you know how the gym works?  It works like this...

You set these goals - whether they are lifting goals (I want to lift x pounds)...or losing weight goals (I want to lose x pounds)...or overall fitness goals (I want to be able to...).  No matter the goal you set - they all have some end point in mind.  The end point being a place where you are not currently at in some given area.  Or saying it another way...the end point is a place you can't get to at the present moment, but it's where you want to be eventually.

NOW - here's the real deal.  Do you know how you DO get there?

By doing things you can do...IE you do what you can - in order to eventually do what you can't.

You might not be able to lift the goal weight - but you lift weights you can handle in order to get to lift weights you CAN'T handle - yet.  You can't lose all the weight at once - so you lose a little at a time, until your goal is achieved...so on & so on.

What am I saying?  You do what you can - so eventually, you do what you can't.  That's how it all works.

Now broaden that to any area of life...

Finances...Marriage...Personal..Spiritual...Physical...Emotional...Business...Academic...Family...etc...

No matter the area, no matter the goal...we follow the same path - do what you can - so eventually you do what you can't.

Don't allow the things you can't do get in the way of the things you can do.  Those things you can't do are either stumbling blocks or stepping stones.

Instead, identify those things you can do...& do them...until you are able to do what you currently can't.

peace

b

Genesis...You can join us - IF you can find us...



"Where's Waldo"...

Where's Genesis???  Genesis is on the road again.

In Genesis' short history, we have now been to 7 different locations!  That's a lot.  And we are moving to the 7th this Sunday.

Until June of this year, we were at Great Bridge High...which was our preference.  However, we had to vacate the building while they upgraded the HVAC system.  So, for 5 months, we were at Regal 13 Greenbrier.

NOW

Starting this Sunday, Nov. 6th, we will be back at Great Bridge High...they finished the HVAC & we are now able to move back to the High School.

I loved the theater.  However, there are a few things the High School does for us that the Theater couldn't.

1st - the High School is about $30,000 less expensive annually!  That's a lot of money.  And, if we kept growing like we are, we would have to have added another theater - which would cost an additional $15,000 annually.  So, if for no other reason - this is reason enough.

2nd - the High School gives us a bigger time slot on Sunday's.  So we can have a better "time of community" & friendship than we could at Regal.  It felt rushed to "get out" when the movie attenders were "waiting to get in".

3rd - the Children's environment will be better than what we were able to do before.  This area in particular has make HUGE strides & will flourish in a more fitting environment.

There are other pros...

AND there are a few cons...

But, we are on a journey & this is part of the story for now.

So, beginning this Sunday, Nov. 6th, at 10:00AM we will be rocking it at Great Bridge High School - again.

Join us IF you can find us...

peace

b