Aug 31, 2011

A Repost from some time back...



I'm re-posting this because of the scripture words that are in blue.


The Way of Love
1 Corinthians 13

The Way of Love

If I speak with human eloquence and angelic ecstasy but don't love, I'm nothing but the creaking of a rusty gate. If I speak God's Word with power, revealing all his mysteries and making everything plain as day, and if I have faith that says to a mountain, "Jump," and it jumps, but I don't love, I'm nothing. If I give everything I own to the poor and even go to the stake to be burned as a martyr, but I don't love, I've gotten nowhere. So, no matter what I say, what I believe, and what I do, I'm bankrupt without love. 
   Love never gives up. 
   Love cares more for others than for self. 
   Love doesn't want what it doesn't have. 
   Love doesn't strut, 
   Doesn't have a swelled head, 
   Doesn't force itself on others, 
   Isn't always "me first," 
   Doesn't fly off the handle, 
   Doesn't keep score of the sins of others, 
   Doesn't revel when others grovel, 
   Takes pleasure in the flowering of truth, 
   Puts up with anything, 
   Trusts God always, 
   Always looks for the best, 
   Never looks back, 
   But keeps going to the end.
Love never dies. Inspired speech will be over some day; praying in tongues will end; understanding will reach its limit. We know only a portion of the truth, and what we say about God is always incomplete. But when the Complete arrives, our incompletes will be canceled.
When I was an infant at my mother's breast, I gurgled and cooed like any infant. When I grew up, I left those infant ways for good.
We don't yet see things clearly. We're squinting in a fog, peering through a mist. But it won't be long before the weather clears and the sun shines bright! We'll see it all then, see it all as clearly as God sees us, knowing him directly just as he knows us!
But for right now, until that completeness, we have three things to do to lead us toward that consummation: Trust steadily in God, hope unswervingly, love extravagantly. And the best of the three is love.


The 1st time I posted this was actually because God seemed to speak to me about "love doesn't revel when others grovel",  as if someone was about to have a bad day & you, Bob better not revel in it.  Sure enough, right after I felt He spoke this to me - someone had a bad day...a humpty dumpty day...fell off their wall.  And as soon as I heard about their fall - I knew why God had spoken this to me...Shawn & I went right to our altars & prayed...more than once.  We were able to pray from the place of pain - for we knew what they were feeling.

Well, recently, I've heard about another of the fallen.  But my thought today is more about "love that doesn't keep score".  Why is it ok to walk away from a fallen...a sinner...one of our own?  How are we able to seemingly just wash our hands of it all & feel ok about it?  Really?  Where's the love?  What do we tell ourselves to be ok with that?  Do we really feel somehow justified in just turning our back on someone we "love"?  I just don't get it - at all...especially when we will then walk into a church on Sunday & "worship" (that actually is quite contrary to me...I'm not sure that's really possible - but we will call it that anyway) the God of grace, love & mercy.


Then, of course, what about the eternal aspect of our faith?  How can we believe this is about eternity & then walk away from someone who desperately needs us when they are down...struggling to figure it all out...in the clutches of the enemy...on spiritual life support.  I just don't get it...didn't before & still don't now.

IMO - it becomes increasingly apparent that we all live in some type of glass house and throwing stones doesn't serve us very well.  For, about the time we go to throwing, we forget that we too one day might be in the place of having stones thrown our way...

Just saying - this passage on love is the real deal...nothing more needs to be said than what God already said.  I could go on & on...but you either get this or you don't...

peace & love...

b

Aug 30, 2011

Jesus Can You Help Me - NOW!?




Love the blues...coming from the soul.

peace

b

You'll Make a Great Pianist One Day

I remember when Kyndall was young...real young.

She wanted to play piano.  I'm not sure she wanted to learn - she just wanted to play.  And I can remember me telling her that she'd be great at it too.  The only problem was - we didn't have a piano & she had no way of learning without one.  But, each time she'd tell me she wanted to play - I'd tell her she'd be good at it... And so it went for sometime...how long I'm not sure - but suffice it to say it went on for quite some time...as in months or more.

Then it happened.  I was reading a book about being a better father & investing in our kids lives, & I read this thing about going beyond just words & backing up what you say with actions.  It might sound like exaggeration, but as soon as I read that, I got up & took Kyndall to Circuit City to get a keyboard to learn to play piano on...we also got her into piano lessons.  Then for the next several years, she learned to both play & sing as well.  AND, at each recital - she was the girl that was playing the piano - partly because we invested in her dreams & desires.

The point of the book was this - when we say something & then not back it up with action, it leads to frustration in those we speak to.  It's the adult version of "talk is cheap"....When we say something & back it up with our actions, it leads to confidence.  It's the adult version of "money talks"...

It's not just a kid think either.  If you say something to another, kid or not, be ready to invest in it.  Or like in our kids, it just leads to frustration.  It also leads to the conclusion that we (the talkers) are not believable or that we don't really mean what we say.  If you back it up with action, it leads to nothing but good things.

So, if you tell someone you believe in them or that they might be a great piano player one day - be sure & invest in that with them...you never know - they might just really need someone to stand in their corner while they learn to play.

peace

b

Aug 28, 2011

Thankful...

So...

Yesterday, early in the morning, we made the trek to hang out with Shawn's parents & grandmother for the day...leaving our house to the forces of Irene.  Last night about 9:00 we made the trek back to our house to see what our house had faced.

The trek back was not eventful - there were a number of places where water was standing on the road...some water was pretty deep...one place was actually impassable - we backed up & went another way.  But that was about it.  A very different ride from Isabel - when trees lined all of the roads - inclusive of the bypass & we had to use 4 wheel drive the entire ride as we left the road many times to get around the debris field.

Though we all braced for Irene to be much more than she was - we all have to be quite relieved at what we dealt with.

Our anxiety was not totally relieved until we made our way into our home & checked the back yard.  For we knew there is a very real possibility that our neighbor's tree could fall into our house.

Anyway - after saying a brief prayer riding down our road...we said a heartfelt "thank you Jesus" when we surveyed the lack of damage.  No tree...not even a limb...nadda...nothing...lights on & cable tv ready to feed us some channel 13 news.

So, thanks again for all the prayers...all is well & we are VERY VERY grateful for the lack of excitement Irene brought to us all...

Today, take a moment to express thanks to God as well...AND take a moment to pray for those that haven't woke up to the same reality.  For we know some people suffered life loss as well as great damage to their homes or businesses...they need our prayers.  If you know anyone living in a tough spot - they might need us to go beyond "praying for them" & help 'em out.

peace

b

Aug 27, 2011

News Channel 13 Rocks During Irene

So...

As we know, we, in the greater Tidewater area, have just endured a pretty tough few days because of Hurricane Irene. I hope all faired well.

But, what I want to talk about is the local news coverage of the storm. By local, I’m talking about channels 3, 10 & 13. I’m also talking about each person each channel had on air during such a difficult time...whether the news anchors...weather personnel...or those out in the storm.

More specifically, what I want to talk about is how they embellish the stories...make the stories more than the critical news we need in such a time...how they dramatize these things to it being some kind of “one upmanship” between channels.

For instance, when the wind is blowing 15 knots & the reporter is “struggling” to stand up because of how violent the storm has become. Or how, each time they are checked in on “the storm has gotten a lot worse than last time”...Or when the storm has obviously weakened, they hold on to the old story “because, as you know, this is a fluid situation”...

Well, I ended up becoming a fan of CHANNEL 13 big time...Why? Because, in my opinion, they gave you the news - straight up, the entire storm. No fluff...no drama...just the story - no more & no less.

I gave up on my previously favorite weather man - Don Slater Channel 10, because of the hype...and all the bull he kept shoveling out. Funny thing, before I decided to write this, I read on FB people saying exactly this. So, I bailed on him - for good.

As for channel 3 - same thing - fluff...so, though I never was a channel 3 fan - I am definitely not one now.

Channel 13 rocked it the entire time. Well, other than the 2 news anchors that were working the morning shift. It seemed pretty obvious, the guy thinks he's the cats meow & they seemed to struggle the whole time on air trying to look professional while not really liking each other...of course, that’s just my take on how they seemed to interact...if they like each other - they need to hug. But, even so, they still gave the information you needed...

Once we set it channel 13, after hesitantly giving up on channel 10 and barely needing to try channel 3, we never left them all storm long.

Thanks to the entire crew from 13 that made it that much easier to deal with the storm. You all rocked in great ways & it was appreciated from a few families that benefited greatly from all you offered.

With that said, I bid farewell to Don Slater & the rest of channel 10. It’s been good - but it’s time to go with the ones getting it done when it needs done most.

Just so ya know...I am writing (or wrote) this while the storm was still rocking...about 6:00 pm Saturday, with Jeff Lawson on the TV walking us through each hour ahead & EXACTLY what we could expect.

Thanks again.

Peace

b

Aug 26, 2011

Irene...Irene...




So...

Back in September 2003 - another "I" named hurricane came to town...Isabel was her name.  It was Thursday.

6 weeks earlier, we had moved into our brand new home...brand new as in meaning brand new.  The neighborhood we had moved into was brand new as well...there were only 2 other houses occupied at the time.

Our son went to one of those houses during the storm...no biggy.  Me, Shawn, Kyndall & Taylor all stayed home...(Sounds like a rewrite of this little piggy...)

I love watching thunderstorms...the power of nature is incredible...I love to think of the God behind it all.

So, me & the 3 girls were at the back window of the house...watching the storm.  Then, I saw a tree taller than our 2 story home falling straight at us.  I grabbed Taylor, who was 3 at the time, & yelled for Shawn & Kyndall to run.  The tree, on its way down, grabbed another tree by locking limbs together.  So, it wasn't 1 tree larger than our house, it was 2 of equal size falling right at us.

Obviously, the fall only took a second or 2 at most.  As we ran to the front of the house, the trees hit our house with tremendous force.  They hit so hard, that dishes were knocked from the cabinets & were flying through the kitchen, shattering on the tile floor.  The tree furthest south, hit right at our bedroom & tore part of the roof off...leaving a gaping hole over our bathroom & thereby the dining room beneath...water poured in like a broken dam for hours.

The sound was most memorable...the wind...the trees hitting the house...the dishes...the screams...the panicked voices...

Needless to say, our world was shaken to the foundation quickly.  We had that "deer in the headlights" look for a moment...that "OK what just happened...but everyone is OK" thing going on.  Surreal.

By the time the storm was over, we had 5 trees hit our home doing damage of almost $50,000 dollars!

In the aftermath, we had other still standing trees removed from our yard - for precautionary measures should a storm decide to come again.  Well, the only thing to all this is - the trees that hit our home weren't from our yard...they were from the neighbors.  While we had our trees removed - they got a quote on their still standing - larger than our 2 story home trees.

Now, 8 years later...the neighbors still have those trees they got the quote on - standing like guards right behind our house.  One in particular looks ominous.  It has most of my attention right now regarding any possible thing that might happen.  I.e. If it's going to happen - it feels like that tree is the one that's going to do all the damage.

So, Irene...we are watching you...we are praying to the God of the storms...we are staying close as a family...we are doing all we can, knowing that there are some things that are simply out of our control.  And, should we have a tree still standing Sunday morning, we will breath a sigh of relief...and hope that our neighbor will remove the guard that's looking pretty intimidating right now.  Should we have a tree in our home, we will recoup - just like we did 8 years ago...

Remember - he gives peace that passes our comprehension.

2 Songs that come to mind - take 'em or leave 'em for this moment.

Mercy Me - Send the Rain (I love this particular version) It won't allow me to embed it - but if ya click on it - it will take ya to the song.



Casting Crowns - Praise You in the Storm



Our prayers are with all of our friends...

God IS with You!!!!

peace...

b

Aug 24, 2011

January 2, 2011 - a Sunday.

January 2, 2011...turned out to be a bad day!

It was a Sunday...we had family over to have a new years dinner - pork...sauerkraut...rolls...etc...

That part was all good...

After dinner - we sat & talked with family for awhile...

That part was all good...

After they left, we cleaned up...relaxed...talked some more...

That part was all good...

However, that all changed about 11 that night.  Shawn went to get ready for bed...when she went to put up her jewelry - the day went downhill fast & hard.

It was then that we discovered - like the 3 little bears - someone had been in our house while we were out that morning for church.

For, when she opened her jewelry chest - she saw that 38 - exactly 38 - of her rings were gone!  Over time, we discovered that not only rings...but one of my watches....and a few other pieces were gone as well.

We then went into CSI mode - "who dunnit" mode...and how?

We finally figured out that they were brazen enough to pop the locks on a FRONT window to our garage - lift the window (like you would open it) and simply came inside...with 2 dogs barking full steam - like they always do...we knew it had to be someone that we knew...someone that had been in our house before...someone who knew - our dogs aren't exactly the most vicious in town...they knew where to find Shawn's jewelry...they knew we were at church...they just knew.

So, we called Chesapeake's finest...they brought out forensics & were able to remove a print from the window.  That lead to our entire household going down later to have our prints taken as "elimination prints".  Sure enough - they had gotten a print of the person who came in our house...

Well, the reason you're hearing about it today...we went to court today for the 2nd time to see if the person would be convicted...

Turns out the person that came into our house - had attended Genesis as well as FAM.  A friend...

They have been found (plead) guilty...now sentencing follows...

The loss of "jewelry" is 1 thing.  The value of the jewelry lost is somewhere around $8,000 - 10,000!  However, the loss of anniversary rings & gifts...gifts intended to be from 1 generation to another...it's those things that can never be recovered...they are the toughest ones...you can't put a price tag on that stuff...but - it's all in the past - jewelry is all gone & there is nothing we can do to change it...nothing.

Other than move on - we cannot change a thing...not 1 piece of it.

So, we put this to rest...finally.

We will continue to pray with a pure heart - that God will do a special work in this person's life & that they will find their way back to the life God STILL has for them...for them to get to where they would do something like this - they weren't in their right mind...so - join with us in prayer - that they still find the Abundant Life God has for them...

People of the Second Chance...

b

ps - the way this thing worked out...it wasn't us bringing charges.  It was completely out of our hands...it was the state bringing all charges...we didn't have to get involved in anything other than being subpoenaed...we didn't even have to say a word...it was over before we went into court today.

Incredible!



Do yourself a huge favor & listen to this - cranked up...

Aug 20, 2011

Ocean or Pool

So...

Each day while in Hatteras - we typically do both the beach & the pool...

So, today I was thinking & asking - what's the diff between them?  Why do some prefer 1 over the other?

Here's a few of my thoughts on each...

Ocean - ominous...huge...makes ya think about creation & the God behind it all...the waves - relaxing yet powerful...you can take a long walk on the beach...find shells & other things from the deep...dangerous to some extent...untamable...boats...fish...mysterious...a certain power that just is...don't go alone - no matter...body surfing - old school of course...storms on the horizon...sunsets...birds...sand - hot sand...tides...chairs...coolers...sandwiches...

Pool - safe...predictable...clear...somewhat more safe than the ocean...horse flies - wonderful part of creation that makes the ocean look much better...quiet...contained...5 ft. deep...no waves...no mystery at all...feels like your kids are a bit more safe...ants...concrete...hard chairs...

I'm sure if I took the time - there are more differences...

For me - I actually like both for some of the very reasons they are so different.  So, doing the beach in the morning & following up with the pool ain't a bad day in my opinion...it beats - not having either all day long.

peace

b


Aug 19, 2011

A Rant...Update...

If you didn't read my rant yesterday - go read it 1st or this might not make much sense...

So...

I get it.

Instead of being bothered by - not only the cigarette butts - but also the cigar as well that was on the beach...

As the saying goes - if you can't beat em ----- Join em.

So I did.  I wanted to see what it felt like to just throw all your trash out the window or leave it on the beach.

So, when I was riding down the road - I rolled the window down & just tossed the coffee cup right out the window...I knew it was a successful toss because I could see it kind of bouncing...twisting behind me   on the road.  Then at the beach, I left a few baggies on the sand - well not really on the sand - I pushed them down a little too...as if they aren't really as bad if they are partially covered up.  Since I chew gum quite a bit - I decided I'd toss those wrappers out too...

You talk about freedom.  I so get it.

My truck is not cluttered with the cup...wrappers or anything else of mine now...I didn't have to deal with the leftovers from the beach either...just walked in - cooler was empty & therefore ready to be restocked for the next trip - no garbage of mine to deal with.

F.R.E.E.D.O.M!

So, count me in!  No longer will I be one of those people that takes care of their own garbage or leftovers...I too will leave that for others & Mother Nature to deal with.

Yes!

peace...

b


ps - Obviously - I didn't do any of these things...but that's how ridiculous this is to me.

Aug 18, 2011

A Rant...

So...

We walk out on the beach...

It's sunshine...waves...umbrellas...kids...families...

It's me...Shawn...kids & friends...

It's beautiful...

We are all walking to the "perfect spot" for the day on the beach.

Life is good...

Then - for whatever reason I notice something else - that makes me somewhat angry.

It's not the tourist (of which I guess we are one too being that we are in another state)...it's not anything going on at that exact moment.

No - it's something that happened sometime before we got there & apparently happened many many times.

What is it that messes up this moment?

Cigarette butts...

They are all around in the sand...I mean the moment I saw 1 - I then saw plenty of them - all around.  Apparently unannounced to the world - the beach had become an ash tray for those that smoke.  Disgusting!

I'll go further since I'm on it & taking some vacation time to blow off some steam about it.

Why is it that smokers think their cigarette butts are not garbage for them to dispose of in some manner more like we all do with our garbage.  Seriously, gum chewers don't throw their wrapper out the window while sitting at a stop light or when they are done chewing their gum...When you eat a combo meal from some drive through - you don't just throw all the garbage out the window because you are done eating you?...I could go on - but my point is made - if to no one else other than to me.

Throwing cigarette butts out anywhere is garbage...doing it on a beautiful beach is somehow more disturbing than doing it on concrete or while going down the high way...

When I was growing up - they had these inventions called ash trays...they'd be full of cigarette butts too - because the people that smoked took the responsibility of disposing of them...

Come on - you're better than that.

Nuff said.

I feel better.

b

Aug 13, 2011

10 Things I Believe About the Church (by Perry Noble)

Below is an article I read by Perry Noble...consider what he has to say about the local church...



1. I believe the potential for the local church to do good and create positive change in the world is greater than it has ever been.
2. I believe that the ROOT of the desire to do good and create positive change in the world HAS to be the GOSPEL…and if it isn’t, what will develop is cool ministry fads and ideas…but nothing revolutionary that will impact the world.
3. I believe that some of the greatest Christian leaders that the world will ever know are currently in elementary school, middle school, and high school…thus making youth and children’s ministry one of the greatest mission opportunities that the local church can invest in.
4. I believe that more and more church leaders are going to begin to take radical steps of faith rather than trying to repair broken systems.
5. I believe that more and more church leaders are going to continually put personal preferences of ministry aside and work together with other people to accomplish more ministry than they could have ever done alone.
6. I believe that we’re going to see some of the greatest moves of God this world has ever seen in the next 20 years…MOST of them happening because the local church finally decided to step up and be the church.
7. I believe God wants to use your church to do unbelievable things in the community in which HE has planted you.
8. I believe the key to a healthy church is healthy church leadership…leaders cannot fly at the speed of sound and expect to hear God’s still small voice.  The healthier we get, the healthier our churches can be.
9. I believe that if ALL leaders took the advice God gave us in Galatians 6:9 that we would see breakthroughs like we’ve NEVER seen before.
10. I believe God has called the church to CHANGE the world…not complain about it!!!  We are an empowered body of believers whom He has called to attempt the “impossible” so that people can see HIM!!!  (So…what is that thing that you know you should do next?)

personally, i think he's on to something...

peace

b

Aug 11, 2011

Yesterday's Devotional

Below is simply a typed copy of yesterdays devotion.


"Love cares more for others than for self".  I Cor. 13:4


Do you remember the elder brother in the parable of the prodigal son?  He wanted the privileges of being a son, but not the obligations that came with being a brother.  And because he couldn't celebrate his brother's return, it cost him his joy.  


Contrary to what you may have heard, speaking critical words doesn't make you feel better, it just makes you more miserable and keeps the issue alive.  The Bible says: "pleasant words are...healing to the body" (Prov. 16:24 AMP).  If you value your opinions more than your friends, you'll defend your opinions and destroy your friendships.  When conflicts arise, step back and look at what's really important.  Give others the benefit of the doubt.  When working with yourself, use your head: when working with others, use your heart.  Learn to be flexible.  Thomas Jefferson said, "in matters of principle stand like a rock; in matters of taste swim with the current."  Don't major in minors, and stop fighting over things that ultimately make no difference.  Be gracious with others in the same way God is gracious with you.  Mature love allows someone who has failed to ease out of the situation with their dignity intact.  Once you've made your point, back off!  In life, you're always going to have disagreements.  They'll either give you ulcers or give you understanding - the choice is yours.  Don't over-react; don't use a bazooka when a BB gun will do.  When a conflict arises, make it a time to learn, not lose.  


If you're serious about building good relationships, live by the words, "love cares more for others than for self."


peace


b

Aug 10, 2011

Just posting some baseball pics...

Since I've been on a blog roll, I didn't want to go too long in blog silence mode.

I mentioned before that if I couldn't think of something to talk about that I'd put up a pic or 2.

So, here's a series of pics that I took of Stik stealing 2nd...in a playoff game v. Kellam this year.

As you might already know - we love baseball...

FYI - he was safe...






Aug 7, 2011

Movies...are there any good movies anymore?

So...

I'm not a big movie goer - but I really like good movies...especially action packed ones.  To protect myself & whoever else might go to a movie with me & Shawn, I read a few reviews...I go to Rotten Tomatoes to read the ratings...I even have an app on 1 phone so we can check viewer ratings before we attend something even on the fly...

Blah blah blah blah blah...

Well, I did diligent research on the Planet of the Apes movie...asked a few people about it...went to Tomatoes for the critics ratings etc...You'd figure that a movie having an 80% viewer rating would be good enough to attend...not!

I don't get how they can make a movie look so good in the previews - only to make it so bad in real life.

You walk out of that movie with that look on your face that says "what the heck just happened".  That "wake me up because I know this is not real" look.

Anyway...

If you want some good advice...if you go to see Planet of the Apes...get some pop corn & a drink...then after watching about the 1st 10 or 15 minutes of the movie, you'll meet the apes & all the key people of the movie...then take the drink & popcorn somewhere else to enjoy...at least somewhere else, you will be able to talk with whoever you came with & you won't be watching this movie for the next 100 minutes of your life waiting for it to get as good as the preview...because it's not going to happen.

Just trying to help my fellow man...

b

ps - any good suggestions?

Aug 6, 2011

Writings on the Wall

Yesterday was Shawn's birthday...so we planned to spend some time together.


One of the things we got to do was go get a couple's massage.  Some of our friends had bought us the massages for our anniversary...it was a great way to spend some time together for sure...


Anyway - before going back for the massages, we were sitting in the "Zen" room...AKA a room with really cool pics of sunrises or sunsets...dimmed lights...relaxing music playing...a video on a large screen of snow falling...just a place to get your mind off all the things it normally is filled with.


AND right there on the wall was a quote I had read years ago.  I guess since we were in the "Zen" room...and it was Shawn's birthday...and we just celebrated our 25th anniversary...and Ashton signed up for college - which starts in 2 weeks...and Kyndall is now engaged...and Taylor has one of the best pure laughs in the world (IMO)...the quote made more sense than it may have the 1st time I read it.


Here's what it says...


"Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take but by the moments that take our breath away."


I hope that before I leave this earth - I have lots more of those "take your breath kind of moments"...


I also hope the same for you.

Live!

b


Aug 2, 2011

Journeying...

So...

As I understand it - we are all on a journey in life...a facet of that journey is our spiritual life & its development.

I could say it another way...I could say "we are all trying to figure this whole what's it mean to be a Christ follower"?...or I could say "what's it mean to grow spiritually?"...or I could say "we are all trying to figure out the same thing"...or I could say "none of us have this all figured out"...or I could say "each of us has to figure this spiritual area out"...or I could say "none of us have this all figured out - nor will we ever"...or I could also say "everyone of us still has some growing or developing to do"...or (1 more) I could say "each one of us has our own areas we need to keep working on".

Any & all are equally correct - in my opinion.

So, as we journey - ideally not on our own - is it better to "put our own convictions on someone else" and then possibly not be able to walk together, or is it better "to agree none have this all figured out" and simply keep walking together - each with the same goal in mind...loving as we go?

The way I see it...if we are all walking - we may not all be at the same place...AND, if it's true that God will guide each of us - why not leave that "let me put my personal conviction on you" thing out of the equation?

Now, for those not agreeing with me - I'm not talking about not having honest open candid dialog that is guided out of love for each other - I think that's extremely beneficial...and I think it should be part of how we develop...but let me also say - I think those dialogs are most effective when invited or brought about by the friendship that permits it AND when it's forced or offered without permission (which is earned or asked for) or without love - then typically a division begins that if not dealt with - only worsens...

What I'm saying is that when we allow simple differences to divide - or anger us - we have allowed our own agendas to be the driving force, rather than walking together in love...Then, whether we are right or wrong becomes irrelevant to the greater damage of separation.

Incredibly, I think we are often less "tolerant" of those we love the most...

So, we can walk together - different - yet in the power of love...or we can walk separately feeling right...For me, I prefer not to go this alone...

It's up to each of - but it takes everyone of us to make this thing work...

peace

b